On the day The 50 Shades books were reported about on NBC Nightly News, this website saw a one-day spike in traffic that has yet to be even remotely equaled since.
At first, I thought there was some sort of glitch in the WordPress stats feature. But other less-than-vanilla websites were also reporting record visitations on that day. So I knew something was up.
Three years later, I went to see the first 50 Shades movie in the theater – something I rarely do anymore … unless it is the latest Sylvester Stallone movie. As I sat there watching it, I thought about the possibilities of where this all could lead. And I will admit that my mind went right to The Zeke and Lily Saga. I saw it as a pipe dream, but still contemplated how to take all 10 books in the series (11 now, but at the time, there were only 10) and combine them into 3 or 4 movies.
To just see those words: Zeke & Lily on the screen would have been a thrill unparalleled and likely, never to be paralleled again. But it might come at a grave cost.
Tell ya what … like me get back to the explanation of that grave cost in a minute.
Unlike a lot of folks, I liked the first movie. It was extremely watered down, but at the same time, it was watered down enough to give the vanilla masses the ability to swallow it without choking. When speaking with a friend about it, he disagreed with me – calling it an abomination of BDSM, going so far as to refer to the Shades stories as an abusive relationship and not a representation of BDSM at all.
He would continue on about it, saying how this showed BDSM in a horrible light and how it wasn’t fair to present it in mainstream with such an inaccurate depiction.
I respected his opinion, as he was entitled to have one. But my reply to him was:
“Throughout the 90s, ABDL was bastardized on talk show after talk show after talk show – from Jerry Springer to Donahue to Montell Williams to Sally Jessy Raphael and so many others. And not a single one of them took a serious approach to exploring the meaning of age play, instead opting to decorate their stages as a nursery and to allow their audience members to ask insulting and demeaning questions with intention of poking fun at the subject – as opposed to learning about it and perhaps comprehending its meaning … none of which even once being corrected or redirected by the hosts.
So I understand your pain when I hear you speak of how 50 Shades has misrepresented BDSM.”
But he brought a good point to light, once again. Everything comes with a cost … a grave cost. And without the necessary monitoring to keep the subject objective (for lack of a less confusing way to put it), BDSM becomes a way to physically and mentally abuse people and get away with it … and ABDL becomes an organization of diaper freaks with Peter Pan Syndrome who avoid adult responsibilities.
Sounds ugly, doesn’t it? The four letters we have in common have never been given a fair chance in the public eye. And because of this, we don’t smile fondly on more opportunities when they arise. But as a community, we protect our own. And we always will.
Perhaps there are situations when certain ABDLers go at each other. Sometimes, this is a scuffle, figuratively speaking, between two members of the younger generations. Sometimes, this is a battle between members of opposing events. Sometimes, this is a poor exchange between two people who struggle with how to present their opinions.
But regardless of our reasons for being human, another human condition is to dream. And dream I do.
Who would have ever believed that we could come as far as we have already? We have at least three hotel conventions, two of which that are now hotel takeover conventions. We have massive house parties, regular events and gatherings, more munches and groups and websites than can be counted … and the ability to keep growing – on our terms.
Zeke & Lily – In Theaters Now.
Ahh … some day.