Category Archives: Of the Heart

What Good Things Do …

In what I write, I often use the phrases Dream Come True, Forever and a Day, Fairy Tale Ending, and of course, Happily Ever After.  What I write is fantasy and therefore can always be the perfect story that welcomes one of those phrases at its end.

Real life teaches us that it isn’t as simple as: “Meet, Fall in Love, Kiss, Roll End Credits”.  And the people we gain and lose in our lives sometimes make us numb to continuing our search for the soul mate we believed to have been found.

I once received a friend request on FetLife from someone who had a quote in her profile I had never read before.  It said:

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they go right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart, so that better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe

In an instant, unexpectedly and perhaps even unintentionally, what you believed to be the truth can change.  And if you’ve felt the sting of vindication, you know what I mean by truly feeling numb.

But the numbness goes away after a while and your head resurfaces above the water.  You’ll still be the wonderful person you were before, but you’ll have been made wiser for the future.

So, I present to you a story ( a short one ) that I wish I could claim ownership of.  It tells a sweet tale about what someone’s heart can feel and how words can sometimes be perceived to mean two different things.

I posted this story before, but I don’t think I could post it in enough places.  And though it doesn’t drive at any ageplay or “Daddy’s Girl Fetish”, I believe it captures the root of the Daddy/BabyGirl dynamic very well.

Beautiful Needs

 A girl asked a guy if he thought she was pretty.
He said no.

She asked him if he wanted to be with her forever.
He said no.

She then asked him if she were to leave him, would he cry?
He said no.

She had heard enough.
As she walked away, tears streaming down her face, he grabbed her arm and said:

You’re not pretty. You’re Beautiful.
I don’t want to be with you forever, I need to be with you forever.
And I wouldn’t cry if you walked away, I’d die.

Continue reading …

The “Daddy” – tude

We are attracted to people who we can relate to and with whom we find the right things in common.  We look for an ease of communication and a chemistry that connects us in ways that we can’t with others.  This is what leads to that bonding of hearts and a connection of souls.  Then comes the ability to be so comfortable with each other that we let down our personal guards and reveal those pieces of the puzzle that make us who we are, but only after we have found trust.

It’s a journey that seeks a foundation from which to build off of, a structure to hold everything inside it that we choose to fill it with … and a roof that never lets anything escape us – even if we find our heads and our hearts in the clouds from time-to-time.

The dynamic we subscribe to in an age play relationship takes the usual method and does it one better by intensifying the emotions that can erupt from within us.  It is this intensity that turns our wants into our needs, our longings into our yearnings, our interests into our passions and our affections into the depths of love we embrace about our significant other.

I’ve had vanilla relationships in my life, before I finally understood and listened to what my heart had been telling me all along.  And those vanilla relationships were wonderful.  But it was the age play relationships which included that “dynamic” that intensified the emotions and those were the girlfriends I got to know on a level far deeper than anything vanilla.

So what’s a “Daddy”-tude? It’s many different things to many different people.

As a Daddy, you don’t just want the BabyGirl you love. You need her. You are strong where she is weak and weak where she is strong. You crave the responsibility of protecting her and may often find yourself wanting to know exactly where she is – not because you’re obsessed, but because as a Daddy you need to know she is alright. The instinct makes him want to protect and need to do so.

She is his best friend and the foremost thought on his mind. She is the passion which drives his actions, for the short-term but also for the long-term. She may not always see the long-term as clearly as he does and vice versa for the goals she sees.

Thoughts of her lead to actions and maybe it’s because thoughts of her create images of her that burn dreams of her into a Daddy’s mind. Continue reading …

What to Remember at the Onset …

At the onset of any journey in life, the future seems wide open, filled with possibilities for each moment and every step of the way.  You wonder where your destination will take you.

When love is new, your dreams become brighter and your wishes expand to meet the horizons now in view.

Everything begins subtly and slowly, allowing those first moments of those first sentiments to be shared.  It isn’t always words that are required, but rather just the ability to convey to someone that you have taken notice to them.

There are a whole lot of questions you’ll ask, a whole lot of experiences you’ll have and a whole lot of life you’ll live. 

Pray to God that you’ll face challenges together along the way because they’ll make you stronger with each success, but Pray to God that some of the time you fail together so you realize from that standpoint why you need each other and where real strength comes from.

And as you grow, do so together, helping each other along the way when a weakness is discovered.  This will make clear to both of you why it is important to give just as much as you take.

When someone becomes drained, re-energize them – because without that opportunity to get back what just poured out of them, they feel empty.  Recognize that selflessness, while noble, is also extremely taxing.  So don’t ever forget to appreciate when someone does all they can for you.

When you arrive at the point where you love someone’s faults as much as you do their qualities, then you will have discovered something which could be everlasting.

Everyone has basic needs in life.  Learn what their basic needs are, memorize them and commit them to your soul because they will look to you to fulfill those needs.

Give all that you can – be it time, energy, money, support, tears, laughter, a pair of arms to hold, passion, intensity, respect, devotion, a ride to the airport, a moving truck trip and a strong back, but be bold enough to ask the same in return.

Take time to talk, but also take time to listen.  And at other moments in time, don’t say anything at all because the bonding of hearts and the connection of souls doesn’t always make sound.

Enjoy the journey.  Don’t skip any steps.  Fall in love and remember:

There are always Dreams to be Dreamt, Fairy Tales to be Told, Happily Ever Afters to be Pursued, Memories to be Made, that Perfect Story to be Written, that Deepest Love Yet to be Discovered, a Lifetime to be spent together, and the Opportunity – Awaiting to Feel It All.

The Birth of a Heartbeat and the Discoveries to Follow

There are so many influences behind the dynamic between a Daddy and a BabyGirl. And those influences will be different for every couple, making them unique from all others.

Part of where a Daddy’s Adoration and a BabyGirl’s Giddiness comes from is the connection that the two individuals have. It’s a bonding of their hearts which produces every emotion, every sensation and every reaction. That’s when you know you’ve found what you were looking for and more importantly, who you were looking for.

And it all begins with one single, solitary flash in her mind, that, as a Daddy, transforms you and gives you a new sense of purpose which will remain with you for the rest of your life …

That’s the Birth of a Heartbeat and the Discoveries which Follow.

It’s a wonderful moment and one of the most beautiful things I have ever witnessed in my life. I will never forget it and would never want to.  It is nothing shy of the very beginning of a lifetime spent loving someone.

But not just anyone.  Rather, the girl you met who chose to follow her heart and become the BabyGirl you could see within her all along.

That initial instant when her mind crosses the barrier of fantasy and accepts that her dream is now reality.

But it’s not really the stuff that dreams are made of or that perfect fairy tale ending. That sort of thing takes time and work and two souls that want the same thing. It’s far simpler than all of that … It’s just the beginning.

She lies before you in a t-shirt and the diaper you just put her in.  The pacifier between her lips is being feverishly nibbled as she attempts to sort out the plethora of thoughts and sensations filling her mind and her senses.

She is now a BabyGirl.  And she’s never felt that littleness before because of someone. She certainly thought about it, but now she feels it and it’s more intense than she had imagined.

Somewhere in the realm of littleness, obvious for the flushed and blushing color of her face, there exists a hope that she will be made to feel the same degree of safety to she just relinquished by opening her soul and allowing the secret desires of a little girl’s heart to make her vulnerable.

Her eyes light up for the first time with a gaze of defenseless surrender. Her irises dance with an excitement she doesn’t yet know what to do with, but for this moment she finds contentment in simply being mesmerized by the prevailing beating of her heart.

Perhaps it’s brought on by a surrounding that makes her comfortable to be little. Perhaps it’s her outfit or the diaper or the pacifier or the bottle. Maybe it’s all of that or none of it.

Maybe it’s the way she has been spoken to, treated, regarded and cared for by her new Daddy.

Whatever the reason was, she is consumed by overwhelming feelings which have married together the innocence of her soul’s desire and the passions of her mind. What this means is: every piece of her has been affected by a dynamic and a fantasy she only ever hoped would be more than a castle in the sky some day.

The Pursuit of “Picture Perfect”

We all have “dream scenarios”. Some of them we perfect, in our minds.  This is one of those perfect dream scenarios of mine.

I’ve made several attempts at putting this dream scenario into story form, but I just haven’t written it perfectly yet.

But I see this picture and envision the whole story.

The right words will come to me to write it perfectly some day.  And I will take her there, regardless of whether her name is Lily, Mia, Rose, Penny or whomever. 

It will be perfect.

The Torture of “Not Knowing”

Has any one ever asked you how you knew you were an AB or a DL or a Daddy or a Mommy (or whatever applies)?

Below are links to a two-part video of a speech I gave at NELIcon 2011.

This isn’t a fantasy or bed time story. It’s for real and one of the most pivotal things that ever happened to me.

When I Was In 3rd Grade … Part One

There’s a moment in life when you learn who you will become. This story was my moment.


When I Was In 3rd Grade … Part Two

Action isn’t as easy to take as it seems, but when faced with fight or flight, you learn who you are inside.


Here’s the complete story in writing: When Someone Touches Your Heart

Something so Familiar

So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we find the answers we seek, they soon become inevitable.” – Unknown

Words describe it, but nothing can express what a dream feels like in real life. You simply have to experience it to know.

The Daddy and BabyGirl dynamic takes every emotion, every ounce of love and life you share with one another in a relationship and adds an impassioned meaning to it all. It is natural for her to feel “little” and long to have her senses, her heart and her mind affected when you treat her with a kindness, love and tenderness that melts the soul of a BabyGirl instantly.

As you grow together, you find what sustains you in life – realizing what is important and what is less important, to both of you. You will change because of her. And if it was meant to be she’ll change, too, because of you. That’s when it ceases to be a Dream and becomes a Dream-Come-True.

There’s love which seems best for the moment. And there’s love which seems best for a lifetime. It’s a matter of figuring out which is best for you. You’re always looking for that person who is looking for you. Meeting someone who sees and pursues it as you do is where fate may well come into it. – unless you all ready have them – to cherish and be cherished by. Then the “lifetime” can begin.

If she excites and connects with you, seeks a bonding of hearts, to love and be loved, to share all her life with you, to trust and find fulfillment, has the littlest of hearts and the simplest of souls, is she the “reality” which includes your fantasy? Are you the “reality” which includes hers?

There’s a fine line between feeling something and knowing you can never feel it enough. There’s also a fine line between the next 30 days and the next 30 years. And that’s okay because not everything winds up being what you thought it was. You do live, learn and grow. It wouldn’t be healthy if you didn’t. Maybe there’s a reason for that and maybe that’s where fate comes into it again.

And you’ll be wiser for the future, to know to do it all again, to not be jaded and to lay your heart out again for someone, not because you didn’t learn before, but because you did learn. – She is worth it. – She is worth every bit of your heart and every bit of your love because she longs to receive the same thing you long to give … and what that specifically is will bond the two of you.

The past speaks volumes about people, but never defines who they are. It merely shows who they’ve been all ready and helps define who they’ll be in the future, the fantasy sought in the reality found. Either for now or forever , whichever the heart dreams for.

Your heart never loses what it feels and grows stronger for what it needs. And what it needs may arrive as someone you were not expecting, whether you met that person all ready or whether she is still a perfect stranger.

You smile and say hello, realizing there is something so familiar all ready.