In what I write, I often use the phrases Dream Come True, Forever and a Day, Fairy Tale Ending, and of course, Happily Ever After. What I write is fantasy and therefore can always be the perfect story that welcomes one of those phrases at its end.
Real life teaches us that it isn’t as simple as: “Meet, Fall in Love, Kiss, Roll End Credits”. And the people we gain and lose in our lives sometimes make us numb to continuing our search for the soul mate we believed to have been found.
I once received a friend request on FetLife from someone who had a quote in her profile I had never read before. It said:
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they go right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart, so that better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe
In an instant, unexpectedly and perhaps even unintentionally, what you believed to be the truth can change. And if you’ve felt the sting of vindication, you know what I mean by truly feeling numb.
But the numbness goes away after a while and your head resurfaces above the water. You’ll still be the wonderful person you were before, but you’ll have been made wiser for the future.
So, I present to you a story ( a short one ) that I wish I could claim ownership of. It tells a sweet tale about what someone’s heart can feel and how words can sometimes be perceived to mean two different things.
I posted this story before, but I don’t think I could post it in enough places. And though it doesn’t drive at any ageplay or “Daddy’s Girl Fetish”, I believe it captures the root of the Daddy/BabyGirl dynamic very well.
A girl asked a guy if he thought she was pretty.
He said no.
She asked him if he wanted to be with her forever.
He said no.
She then asked him if she were to leave him, would he cry?
He said no.
She had heard enough.
As she walked away, tears streaming down her face, he grabbed her arm and said:
You’re not pretty. You’re Beautiful.
I don’t want to be with you forever, I need to be with you forever.
And I wouldn’t cry if you walked away, I’d die.
They were very much in love, and through a series of questions she asked him, he answered in a manner that was different than what she thought he would.
This confused her and perhaps upset her a bit. She felt hurt and began to believe that he didn’t love her. So she turned to leave and he grabbed her arm, preventing her from going.
With tears in her eyes, she turned back to him and he spoke directly to her, telling her what was in his heart and being very clear about it.
And then she was fine.
Now, why do I feel this story speaks of the Daddy/BabyGirl dynamic?
Because it depicts a moment when several possible roadblocks could have led to a breakdown.
Insecurity, hurt feelings, assumptions and quick conclusions are present in any relationship. But with the Daddy/BabyGirl dynamic, every emotion is heightened, felt and needed on a level far deeper than the norm. And people who enter into a relationship with such a dynamic do so because they relate to those depths of emotions, because they subscribe to the bond created and because they seek what they dreamed, finding out that it really isn’t as hard to find as they thought.
Breaking the story down like that and describing the moments can steal away the charm it possesses. But chances are, when you finished reading that story, you may have thought: “awwww”, perhaps followed by the exact same thought that everyone has when they read it: “They both were saying the same thing, but didn’t understand it.”
In my opinion, a Daddy’s greatest challenge is a BabyGirl’s insecurities.
Some may say that a Daddy’s greatest challenge isn’t her insecurities, but it’s making her happy, making her feel wanted and needed … and loved. To them, I would say that making her happy and making her feel needed and loved are a Daddy’s greatest rewards, not challenges.
And in order to make her happy and feel loved, a Daddy must do many things – one being to address that which a BabyGirl constantly deals with, as stated before, her insecurities.
And it can be a challenge because she won’t say: “Daddy, I’m feeling insecure.” Instead, what she will do is ask you if you like her and it will be your response that will tell her if you understand what she’s really asking you.
If life has ever made you cynical, if you have ever been made to believe that fairy tales don’t come true, remember the words of Marilyn Monroe and remember that the best is yet to come.
Find that person in your life, subscribe to realism together and work at it until you get it right.
That is what good things do.