Every now and then, I make reference to the question: “What Does A Daddy Get From the Dynamic?” I’ve seen this question pop up on a quite a few sites and I’ve received this question in emails and private messages. And I’ve done my best to answer it. But it doesn’t seem to matter how many times it’s stated, the answers given are often hard for a BabyGirl to understand. Perhaps the only way to know what a Daddy get from it is to be a Daddy – just the same as the only way to understand what a BabyGirl gets from it is to be a BabyGirl.
It’s frustrated me a bit that, though I find it easy to write, I just simply can’t find an all-encompassing answer to this question. So what I’ve decided to do is create a series of on-going blog entries, until I have fully answered the question.
This is the second entry and each entry will detail a small little “something” that I’ve gotten from my time as a Daddy. But these are only my answers, my opinions and what I get from the dynamic. It may differ for others and that’s the beauty of it. Much like Age Play and ABDL itself, it is as individual as we are.
So the fourth entry I will entitle as: “Essence”.
In the early days of the ABDL internet (the late 90’s, the early 2000’s), there were few sites that had drawn enough attention to bring in the masses. But the number of sites would grow and soon, little communities would pop up … like DiaperSpace – joining in with DailyDiapers and some of the others that had become mainstays. FetLife didn’t exist just yet, but it would soon be born as well.
And suddenly, long distance didn’t seem so long. Not only could you meet others online, but you could tell others of the people you had already met … namely, a partner you now called your own. You could leave caring messages on their profile and tell the world how much you loved them.
I began to see ABDL and Age Play couples do this sort of thing, flirting with one another online – openly and with affection. And what it displayed to me was how they were able to show the other person how much they were on the mind. They would do this in different locations and in different ways: on profile walls, in chat rooms, and in forums – to name just a few.
Nowadays, there are cell phones that are mini computers and being openly affectionate online is not only commonplace but also easy to do as you now have the internet at your fingertips at all times. But back then, it was uncommon and those who shared openly were showing another level of the connection in a very meaningful way.
So how does this apply to what a Daddy gets from the dynamic?
This one goes hand-in-hand with “Purpose” as thinking about her also gives you purpose. But I speak of thought separately because it can be often overlooked or taken for granted. A lot of times, we notice the visual things like actions and surprises. But sometimes we don’t pause to appreciate that those actions began as thoughts – at some point when you hear something on the TV or see something on your way to work or hear something said by someone – all scenarios that can make a Daddy think of her … his Essence.
Thoughts of her lead to more thoughts of her as a scent in the air brings her to the forefront. Those thoughts redirect a Daddy’s attention and instead of just going into a minit market to buy something ordinary like, say … Turkey Hill Iced Tea, that Daddy also buys a little glass bottle of the Frappuccino Mocha iced coffee because that’s what she likes. Or he gets a pack of Peanut M&Ms because he knows that it’s the first bit of comfort food that will make her night better once she gets home from work.
Little things like that then lead to bigger things, like planning out a day trip or making the night more pampering for all of her than just her bottom.
And suddenly, what happens is: That Daddy begins to do different things than what he would’ve done otherwise, had she not been on his mind. He becomes a different creature because of her. And without much ado, she becomes his essence.
Why? Because she matters to him and though life doesn’t always allow every moment to be spent on showing someone how much they mean to you, life can’t change the essence of your thoughts.
How to convey to a girl that she’s on your mind? Well, I suppose the best way to do that may always be open for debate. Saying it is good. But showing it is very good as well. And hopefully, somewhere in the middle, she will see in her Daddy’s eyes the essence she has become to him.
And to me, that’s another reason why the Daddy/BabyGirl connection is dynamic.
Read the first entry: “Back Relief”
Read the second entry: “Magic Hands“
Read the third entry: “Purpose“
Read the fourth entry: “Essence“